Private Programmes

If you have a "hot temper", you may feel like it's out of your control and there's little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your anger than you think. You can learn to express your emotions without hurting others.

You might think that venting your anger is healthy or justified, that you need to show your fury to get respect or that the people around you are too sensitive. But the truth is that anger is much more likely to damage your relationships, impair your judgment and have a negative impact on the way people see you.

At the other end of the spectrum, you may be someone who dislikes confrontation even though you feel angry inside, and this leads you to bottle up and resort to passive-aggressive behaviours such as withdrawal, silent treatment, sulking or sarcasm, naming, shaming, blaming and criticising. This is also mis-mangement of anger and you are also out of control.

Would you like to learn how to become a better person?

Perhaps you are miserable, moody, grumpy, disillusioned and unmotivated?
Perhaps you are withdrawn, non-communicative, anxious and irritated?
Perhaps you sometimes display anger in a way that upsets others?
Perhaps you are being nasty or selfish, and this is causing fall-outs with others?
Perhaps you are moaning all the time at your partner and the kids and they don't like you that much?
Perhaps you are being very controlling because you feel insecure and this is impacting others?

Communication, or the lack thereof, is usually the most significant problem in a relationship, normally fuelled by anger and conflict, resulting in the relationship to deteriorate.
Couples struggle to resolve their conflict and let go, or do not possess the skills on how to resolve their conflict.

Being a child or a teenager can be as challenging and difficult as being an adult, especially in the high pressured environments that we are living in today. They are often expected to behave like an adult but they are treated like children. With the pressures to survive school and puberty with their raging hormones, we take it for granted that our children are not stressed or are coping, but this is not necessarily so. They are bombarded with new knowledge and information on a daily basis, as well as high expectations upon them from family and teachers.

We are experiencing higher than ever stress levels in our personal and work lives and this stress is affecting our mental and physical health and well-being. We are so used to feeling the pressure, it seems normal. Often we don't even realise we are in negative stress.

Road Rage is commonly defined as "aggressive driving that leads to aggressive behaviour". You allow yourself to get emotionally aroused with the adrenalin hi-jacking your emotions to go in "fight and flight" mode with no reasonable thought process and out of proportion reaction. The episode will only come to an end once all the emotions have been worked out. It is better to learn how to control your emotions in the car so that you don't one day do something you regret.

When a court has ordered you to attend anger management classes, we offer you an intensive one on one programme that will meet the requirements of the court.

Many of our clients admit to some form of domestic violence in the home and need to learn how to have more control of their emotions and behaviour.

You will benefit immensely with our individual Anger Management and Couples Counselling Programmes. However, often with domestic violence, there are additional aspects that relate to your childhood and upbringing. These could include abuse in the family home, alcohol, cultural or gender role beliefs and shame. A cycle of abuse usually gets established and it is difficult to break this cycle without professional help.

The Domestic Violence Act 116 of 1998 includes any of the following:
Verbal abuse (shouting, swearing, screaming, threatening, harassing)
Physical abuse (throwing or smashing objects, hitting, slapping, kicking, punching, biting, weapons)
Emotional abuse (put downs, insults, using guilt, ignoring)
Financial abuse (withholding money where needed, extortion)
Sexual abuse (forced sex when not wanted)